For years I tried to juggle full-time work and parenting 3 girls. I always felt like I was stressing and watching the clock. I decided to drop a day of work to ease the load. I was so excited to have Tuesdays off, that instead of letting the day flow naturally, I wrote a long, unattainable “To Do” list every week. By the end of each Tuesday, I was deflated because I could not possibly accomplish all my goals. I was over scheduling like crazy, trying to fit in cleaning, cooking, visiting everyone, writing, working from home and grocery shopping. The list goes on. The worst part was that I felt like I had wasted most of my day stressing about running out of time and how I would achieve all the items on my list. For the first time in 12 years, I had a day to myself and I was screwing it up! It had to stop. And then one day, it literally did. My watch stopped working and so, “Timeless Tuesday” was born.
Yes, my week would remain bound by responsibilities, school bell times and the bars of time, but when it came to Tuesday, I would deliberately wake up with no alarm ringing beside my head. This little habit tricked my mind into being more “in the moment” than being swept up in a fast-paced world forcing me to keep up with the clock.
On those mornings, I would allow the kids to crawl into my bed with me. I would relax with Lucy snuggled up to me on one side and Cleo on the other for a few moments. We were warm under my big, fluffy duvet while our cat, Blaze lazily purred in a fury ball at our feet. Even my pre-teen would hang out in my room chatting and getting ready for highschool. I soaked it all up and time seemed to stop.
This turned out to be one of the best decisions I ever made professionally, emotionally, and physically. It felt like I had added the key ingredient to one of my new dishes, and it made the meal taste sensational.
I used to rush off to work in a regular morning panic, but since taking Tuesdays off and losing my watch, something had changed me. Suddenly I was spending more time looking at where I was rather than looking at the time. I was more engaged in my work activities and conversations. It had given birth to great creative moments like, staying up late and writing new songs on the guitar. Recently, I should have sent the kids to bed at their regular bedtime but, because my watch was broken, we finished our board game huddled around the fire and drinking hot chocolate. We were savouring the moment.
Ironically, I seem to be getting more accomplished than I had ever done in any given day. No multitasking and stressing. I just do one thing at a time, because I do not spend my time worrying about the clock.
Sure, I still have a schedule to adhere to and I have places to be at certain times. I would love to say that I am in the moment all the time, but that is just not true. But what I can say, is that Timeless Tuesdays have become my favourite day of the week because I know it has made all the other days of the week feel far more timeless than they used to be.