Dealing with Divorce 

 

Be kind to each other- Even if you cannot stand your ex, be kind in front of your child. Try to avoid putting your children in the middle of your fights or making them feel like they have to choose between you. This is the stuff that can be very damaging to the children in the long run.

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Be Consistent- Try to keep your child’s routines the same. Routines and rituals in the home help your child cope with change, like divorce.

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Communicate with your Child- Your child doesn’t need to know all the details, but he or she does have the right to know what is happening and that things will be okay again. Also, be there to listen to them if they need to talk.

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Continue Communicating- Your child might keep thinking about an issue after you’ve finished talking, so be prepared to answer questions more than once. Setting up regular time to talk can give your child a chance to discuss his or her concerns. I always find that bedtime is a good time to chat.

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Let the Teachers and School Know- After separation or divorce there might be changes in your child’s behaviour that show that he or she may need more support. Teachers can monitor the behaviour throughout the day and want to help.

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Make sure you take care of yourself- A support network is important for parents to get help when they are going through tough times. Remember this is not your child’s job, even when they seem very mature. Try exercising, keeping a journal and spending time with friends.

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Be kind to yourself- Lastly, don’t be hard on yourself if you have a bad day.

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Be kind to each other- Even if you cannot stand your ex, be kind in front of your child. Try to avoid putting your children in the middle of your fights or making them feel like they have to choose between you. This is the stuff that can be very damaging to the children in the long run.

1.

Be Consistent- Try to keep your child’s routines the same. Routines and rituals in the home help your child cope with change, like divorce.

2.

Communicate with your Child- Your child doesn’t need to know all the details, but he or she does have the right to know what is happening and that things will be okay again. Also, be there to listen to them if they need to talk.

3.

Continue Communicating- Your child might keep thinking about an issue after you’ve finished talking, so be prepared to answer questions more than once. Setting up a regular time to talk can give your child a chance to discuss his or her concerns. I always find that bedtime is a good time to chat.

4.

Let the Teachers and School Know- After separation or divorce, there might be changes in your child’s behaviour that show that he or she may need more support. Teachers can monitor behaviour throughout the day and want to help.

5.

Make sure you take care of yourself- A support network is important for parents to get help when they are going through tough times. Remember this is not your child’s job, even when they seem very mature. Try exercising, keeping a journal and spending time with friends.

6.

Be kind to yourself- Lastly, don’t be hard on yourself if you have a bad day.

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